Why am I lonely?
There was a time, several years ago when I was constantly battling with this question.
At times I had thought that I had found the love of my life and everything around me was beautiful. The flowers were beautiful, the birds were always singing and the sun was shining. Everything around me was filled with a silent joy and there was magic in almost everything I saw or touched. Suddenly, something silly happens and the love that I had taken for granted gradually fades away.
Then in stages my world breaks up around me and I eventually find myself terribly alone again. My mouth tastes bitter and everyone around me is cold and calculating. The mornings are dreadful and the nights even worse. It appears as if there is no love or mercy left in the world – and this dreadful feeling of isolation continues for the longest time imaginable. My longing and deep desire to find another invariably turns out into a series of useless expressions and wasted effort. It was never easy. Often I would 'compromise' or engage in activities that were immoral and do things that did not agree with my inner self. Even today I subconsciously associate these periods of loneliness with suffering and despair.
Attitude
It took me several years to understand that this recurring problem was not with the world outside – but one that lay within myself. The truth was that I was overcome by a terribly passive attitude when it came to seeking new relationships. There was no way I would express my interest or engage anyone in conversation, unless it was strictly business! Just going about my daily chores while all the wonderful people that passed me by were nothing more than 'just other people' – that is what I wanted them to think, although along the way, I would have liked to have got to know some of them a bit more.
Then I came upon the surprising realization that most of the women that I saw on a day-to-day basis were receptible to me as much as I found them attractive if only I knew how to introduce myself to them! That was the crux of the matter – the 'introduction'. That initial introduction proved to be the only obstacle to ending my loneliness forever. I was taken aback, and even frightened a bit with this new-found knowledge. Knowing that the only thing standing between me and the hundreds of women I see every week, was a mere introduction, was unnerving!
It took me several years more to realize that the problem did not afflict me alone – that the problem was more widespread and most other people suffered with the same lassitude when it came to dating and relationships building. It is sad that people by nature are 'reserved' and most live their whole lives just like that – reserved and alone. Few men and women ever venture out to break into personal relationships with women and men that they like or desire. The majority like to 'pretend' that they are not affected by others and to continue doing what they are doing, while their inner being craves to get to know this 'other' wonderful person. Every day they pass by decisive, fateful moments and changing circumstances where they meet potential partners and lose them in the bountiful sea of life. Forever.
Connection
The mere thought of this always makes me sad. There are millions of wonderful human beings dying of loneliness this very moment -- their only fault being an inability to connect with others. It was this human paradox that gave me the idea for this web-site! What if there is a web-site that selflessly devoted itself to the lonely people of the world? A website where they could create and polish there own virtual personalities and meet and connect with others without restraint? A website that enables a person to engage in the dating game safely and anonymously without too much pressure or commitment on their time and money? It sounded great and a whole flood of ideas started to take shape. This is that site and it is dedicated to you. You, dear user, have our utmost respect and we treat your information with the utmost confidence. The other members here are also just like you looking for new relationships. In due course, I hope to see this website grow much bigger to further improve your experience. If you have any other suggestions to improve our service, I will be very happy to learn about them.
Free!
This site is also 100% free and I intend to keep it that way. You will never be asked to pay money at any time, for with the 'money aspect' out of the way, I can afford to be sincere in my desire to provide you with the best possible dating service that you would ever find on the internet. There are no intentionally placed 'bait' or false profiles as you would likely see in many other places, or any of the other shylock-like gimmicks. All the profiles that you see here are of genuine people like you. No fake profiles with pictures of models and fictitious persons to entice you. Although everything possible has been done to prevent spammers and other unsavory creatures, it is possible that a few might creep in and be masquerading here as members. A natural hazard of being free is the attraction it creates for all kinds of cyber creatures. Do exercise care in corresponding with other members and do not divulge any of your personal information until you are absolutely convinced of their sincerity. If you find any suspicious members/profiles like that, please send us a note using the 'Contact' link and we will be very grateful to you. Our policy in dealing with such is very strict and clear. Once established, we ban them from this site forever.
Your feedback is always appreciated. As we receive hundreds of messages on a daily basis you may not receive an immediate response. We do not have a full-time staff, just a group of volunteers who have graciously agreed to do this service on behalf of the site. However, rest assured that we attend to your message and it helps to make the site better targetted toward achieving its objective.
Come on in and have fun!
Eric Ferrer